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Girl Talk While I Do My Makeup | Being Bi, Marriage, Going Back To An Ex, Balancing Life and More..

  • Published on Sep 18, 2022
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  • Devron Huntley
    Devron Huntley 8 days ago +452

    We love private D too, if she never says another word about a relationship or her personal life I’m still watching. PERIOD

  • De'arra Taylor
    De'arra Taylor  10 days ago +2397

    Thumbs up if you love the Girl Talks 🤗✨

  • Tanique Virgo
    Tanique Virgo 10 days ago +1764

    Totally agree with the fact that women do know their worth, its just that we love giving others the benefit of the doubt and having faith that things can take a turn and be better.

    • T B
      T B 2 days ago

      FACT 🤩

    • Ayanna Henry Solomon
      Ayanna Henry Solomon 4 days ago

      @Eclectic Nerd sooooooo true

    • laskin riubn
      laskin riubn 5 days ago

      didn’t work because he couldn’t find a healthy balance and I would never ask him to put his children before me. Love your videos

    • Eclectic Nerd
      Eclectic Nerd 9 days ago +15

      Yes but in the end some women end up suffering bc of it. Some of us end up walking away with emotional baggage which makes it hard to deal with the next person.

    • Micheon G
      Micheon G 9 days ago +2

      🙌🏾🙌🏾 facts

  • Francine Pope
    Francine Pope 10 days ago +661

    I stayed with my husband longer than I should’ve because I know that humans aren’t perfect and we all struggle with something, so I want to show mercy because I want it shown to me. Also when I leave, I want no regrets. I want to do everything I can to save a relationship because when I’m done, I’m done - no going back

  • Daybe Baby
    Daybe Baby 10 days ago +1124

    NOT A MAC SPONORSHIP! Love that for you

  • Ms. Unique Chellann
    Ms. Unique Chellann 10 days ago +575

    We fall in love with potential or the idea of a person but not the actual person themselves. In other words, knowing that they can be better and holding out hope.

  • Nandaaa T
    Nandaaa T 9 days ago +183

    I honestly don’t blame her for not wanting to show her next relationship . I wish most YT couples did this . Always good to set boundaries ☺️

    • De'arra Taylor
      De'arra Taylor  9 days ago +78

      That’s the word I was looking for boundaries (setting boundaries) I definitely had to learn that the hard way.

  • prettygirlCah
    prettygirlCah 10 days ago +769

    The title made me run here asap. She knows how to keep us on edge😂❤

  • Monika Cookie
    Monika Cookie 10 days ago +188

    De’Arra Said “ What You Can Do For Me, I Can Do For Myself & What I Can Do For Myself, I Can Do For You But What I Can Do For Myself You Also Gotta Do For Me “ 🤞🏽💕‼️

    • Slay Sariah
      Slay Sariah 7 days ago

      this is exactly how i feel folks don’t see it that way though :/

  • TimeBucks
    TimeBucks 9 days ago +208

    You are so real & transparent

  • GAGirl B
    GAGirl B 10 days ago +540

    I believe we as women stay in situations because of the long history together, comfortability, and/or low self-esteem, thinking that they will not get anyone better than the mess that they're in, unfortunately.🧡

    • Life Of Taylor-Marie
      Life Of Taylor-Marie 4 days ago +1

      For me it was all this and more . Haven’t left yet but plans are in motion 😩

    • Eloi Artistry TV
      Eloi Artistry TV 10 days ago +5

      Well said !! Yesss! Literally everything that I was thinking while watching it!

    • Samasia Robinson
      Samasia Robinson 10 days ago +21

      And fear

    • Mofra
      Mofra 10 days ago +10

      Right a lot of women do that . Put up with so much cheating disrespect etc
      Meanwhile a dude will move on with the quickness cheat etc he don’t care about how long y’all been together or having kids together none of that apply to him bc he gon do what he want to do .. and knowing u gon stay and put up with it ,
      but women a lot of women stay bc of that and that’s just ridiculous.

  • CherryPieTime
    CherryPieTime 9 days ago +90

    “I’m a hard worker, I’m just not an OVERworker.” This whole video is IT 💕

  • Sara Elisabeth
    Sara Elisabeth 10 days ago +345

    Whoever does end up with dearra will be lucky. She’s very sweet

    • Teresa G
      Teresa G 10 days ago +13

      Yes she is a sweetheart

  • Chelsea Kiara
    Chelsea Kiara 10 days ago +114

    De’arra is goals. Building a brand and a business is not easy. Whether you like her or not, you cannot hate on her success. That’s just being a hater. 🤨

  • Aly Vaughn
    Aly Vaughn 10 days ago +64

    Dating someone with kids is definitely not for the weak, I used to say I would never date someone with kids but it did happen. I can say he was the love of my life but sadly it didn’t work because he couldn’t find a healthy balance and I would never ask him to put his children before me. Love your videos ❤

  • Alainaaa
    Alainaaa 10 days ago +93

    I do believe some women don't actually know what it feels like to be valued, meaning they don't necessarily know they're worth/how much of a catch they actually are. But also I 100% agree with women staying because they're trying to give the benefit of the doubt because they have faith that things will change!

  • YoursTruly_JC
    YoursTruly_JC 10 days ago +160

    Omgg Congratulations on putting out your very First Prescription Glasses!! I’m so happy to see how Lorvae is expanding so well💗💗💗!!!!

  • Valentina
    Valentina 10 days ago +79

    I love how confident/independent you are!!

    • uhm okk
      uhm okk 10 days ago +2

      ikr i inspire to be like her fr

  • Ravyn
    Ravyn 10 days ago +148

    I read the title haven’t watched YET but all I gotta say is I’m glad you are being more open with these topics ❤️ I’m happy 4 you

  • Anieta Ashley
    Anieta Ashley 10 days ago +2

    Wow, I didn’t realize how much we have in common. I really think this should be a series. Your motivation and resilience is evident in your accomplishments! I think as women we really try to see the best in everyone especially in our partners no matter the circumstance. It’s always up to the individual and ultimately time. And trust me GOD will never lead you astray. 🤎🙏🏿

  • Leine Mallari
    Leine Mallari 6 days ago +12

    De’arra the amount of times I’ve sat in awe with the knowledgeable words you decided to share with us. It’s challenging growing up as the older sibling with no one to seek advice from. Its almost like hearing from an older sister I never had. Sending love and blessings! ❤

  • Romar lawrence
    Romar lawrence 10 days ago +308

    To the person reading this,I wish you the best of what life has to offer. 💯❤

  • Phoenix
    Phoenix 9 days ago +35

    One thing about watching these girls talks I’ve realized Dearra would literally do anything to maintain her peace and I’ve learnt from her to keep it private and show up when the time is right and I’m glad because these girl talks showed me a lot about what I want to change about myself
    So thank you CEO Dee❤

  • Starring Shameka
    Starring Shameka  10 days ago +223

    Ooooooouuuuuu! Not the MAC sponsorship! 🎉❤ - I do believe that women will leave mentally before they physically leave

  • dtore eco
    dtore eco 3 days ago +1

    100% agree with women staying because they're trying to give the benefit of the doubt because they have faith that things will change!

  • amanda ham
    amanda ham 10 days ago +91

    Exactly everybody feels differently I hate when people try to push their feelings onto me that is beyond aggravating

  • Teresa G
    Teresa G 10 days ago +50

    I just love me some Dearra she is a boss, a motivator, and an all around great person! She is a great person to love on endlessly! You are appreciated 🥰😊

  • ThaBoujeeBarb
    ThaBoujeeBarb 10 days ago +12

    I totally agree with your take on staying in relationships longer than you should…what most people don’t realize is truly falling in love takes time, time that has been invested, time that can not be returned. So for most, falling out of love will also take time. We may stay physically but every day we check out mentally.

  • A’liyah’s Journey
    A’liyah’s Journey 10 days ago +24

    Feel you when you said “you want someone to love you they way you love them ,and treat your person back how they treat you “ love is kind ,love is patience and love takes time .

  • So Chiella
    So Chiella 5 days ago +1

    23:01 I think you hit it on the head with women wanting to hold on to something they want bad. I also think we just conditioned to put our all into things and be optimistic of the final outcome but sometimes the sun just don’t shine at the end of the tunnel and you gotta u-turn 🤷🏿‍♀️

    • kido vogo
      kido vogo 5 days ago

      Sis, I'm confused lol You want kids or not cause you said you didn't want them but you wanted to be able to pass your brand to your kids. Lol love your videos !

  • iuvpixy 🥣
    iuvpixy 🥣 10 days ago +37

    i love how you mentioned that gender doesn’t matter as long as they treat you right. that made me feel so incredibly safe 🤍

  • Sharnese B.
    Sharnese B. 10 days ago +56

    “Argue with your mama, not me”…. PERIODT ❤

  • Keke White
    Keke White 10 days ago +6

    Always keep your standards high ❤ I’m so proud of you!!

  • Jaylynn THEE Lively Waterfall

    The way that you’ve just blossomed since you branched off on your own, honestly, I enjoy it so much and it made all of us really recognize how much we love YOU

  • Marissa
    Marissa 10 days ago +64

    Coming from an Aries I feel you! Thank you for inspiring me to stay single because standards are very important 🙂

  • Jasmine Mcphoy
    Jasmine Mcphoy 10 days ago +17

    i love how she’s trying her hardest to be more consistent for us 🫶🏽 ! love youuu d💕

  • SOULar Lioness ELITE
    SOULar Lioness ELITE 10 days ago +35

    I really appreciate your perspective on a lot of things, namely how heavy you place emphasis on INDIVIDUALITY. Being your own person, making up your own mind, doing what YOU feel is right for yourself, in ALL areas of life.
    As far as relationships, it's so interesting to hear your point of view about why women stay "longer than they should," because you're right-damn-near EVERYBODY says the reason why a woman stays is because she doesn't know her self-worth. It's refreshing to here you say that a woman stays because she REALLY wants it to work out so bad. And a lot of times, that's the case. It's good to put that out there so that we can all learn to not judge each other so harshly/don't judge at all.

  • stephunfiltered
    stephunfiltered 9 days ago +13

    I’m noticing that Dearra is so smart, independent, and hardworking. I feel on her old channel it seemed as if she dimmed herself down and couldn’t really show how smart she actually is. The growth is inspiring.

  • May May
    May May 3 days ago

    So me !! As an Aries I’m the same way. I ball it in. There’s only two sides to me. Level 1? Or 1000😂 You’re literally my inspiration. I love seeing how far you’ve come. Been a watcher since day 1!

  • jazmine curry
    jazmine curry 5 days ago

    I've watched one video from you in your past relationship, and it just wasn't for me. I do enjoy watching you be you on your own! Keep it up boo you are doing so good. The makeup look was popping, and the girl talk was cute

  • Jacky M
    Jacky M 10 days ago +53

    I agree 100% with you sayin it’s not about a woman not knowing their worth!!! That’s why we mentally leave before physically leaving! You realize or know your worth but it’s about not wanting to give up on something you really want. Whether that’s the relationship or maybe a business you guys have together, like my situation. My best friends constantly say I need to know my worth, but I 100% know what I deserve and know what I want but it’s not even about that. I constantly find myself saying I just don’t want to give up because I really want this to work. I know our potential in many aspects and don’t want to give that up just yet..

  • lex be vlogging
    lex be vlogging 7 days ago

    Balancing work life and person life is sooo important. she’s right! You can get burnt out so fast & not want to do anything! I love girl talks with Dee 💕

  • Life with Destiny
    Life with Destiny 4 days ago

    This definitely made me realize things about myself. Love you girl

  • Vashalasjewels
    Vashalasjewels 10 days ago +7

    Aww I love seeing your growth and the things you've accomplished 💓💓💓

  • britt
    britt 10 days ago +5

    we here for YOU and you only. you inspire a lot of ppl and it's amazing to see the success you have!

  • Zahria Austin
    Zahria Austin 4 days ago

    I loved this video De’arra❤️ like you hit on everything I needed to hear & I completely agree with your perspective on a lot of topics you brought up GIRL!

  • Christina Thomas
    Christina Thomas 5 days ago

    So in love with how you have evolved within your self your so beautiful and strong and I will always be a dedicated subscriber love everything about you ❤️ 😁

  • Marie
    Marie 10 days ago +6

    I really love the fact that she notices her supporters comments and responds as well❤ we love you DeeDee ❤❤

  • Rozzy 54
    Rozzy 54 10 days ago +10

    De’arra, the make - up and hair looks amazing!!!

  • shiane robinson
    shiane robinson 10 days ago +14

    Totally agree. I was in a relationship and engaged for five years and I wanted to do everything in my power to keep the relationship but on the other hand he wasn’t trying and that’s when I realized I had to call it quits. "| didn't leave because I stopped loving you, I left because the longer I stayed the less I loved myself" | remember reading this quote after my heartbreak and it hit me hard cause we all come to a breaking point and realize why are we fighting so hard for someone and getting nothing in return.

  • SOULar Lioness ELITE
    SOULar Lioness ELITE 10 days ago +77

    Queen D uploads, I watch. PERIOD. And CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR NEW LORVAE LINE! Ayyyy!!! 💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • DarkPh03nixx Speaks
    DarkPh03nixx Speaks 7 days ago +12

    I been following De’arra for a long time and I love that she’s her own person regardless of what anybody thinks.In this day and time you have to set those boundaries of what you want and don’t want. I think more importantly is that she knows exactly what that is now and isn’t willing to accept anything less.

  • Michele Nichole
    Michele Nichole 6 days ago

    I feel like as a woman, only YOU know when your done with a relationship. He/she can cheat, lie, manipulate etc. and everyone in the world can tell you to leave or you can do better. But when your patience has ran out and you have done all you can, that’s when it’s time to go. We see the good in our relationship and hope for better but when a woman is fed up, that’s it.

  • MamacitaKisha
    MamacitaKisha 4 days ago

    You have to match my energy.. That’s it that’s all!! ~De’arra~ Love it ❤️

  • Jenni LowKey
    Jenni LowKey 10 days ago +10

    I like this type of “girl talk” video !!! ❤

  • Cherys Francis
    Cherys Francis 10 days ago +10

    I just love the way she motivates us and being herself ❤❤❤❤

  • Ajanae Crouch
    Ajanae Crouch 10 days ago +3

    I love this so much!!!!! I needed this girl talk❤

  • Ki
    Ki 10 days ago +4

    You are so real & transparent D!! That’s why I’ve been watching you since the start! You’ve grown so much & always make sure to show up for yourself while showing up for your supporters! You are proof in the pudding that you can be very successful & change the way you present yourself while still being your most authentic self! Super inspiring Erra’D lol love you girl !!! ❤❤❤❤❤

  • veronica
    veronica 10 days ago +16

    de’arra is a content creator i’ll never get tired of tbh

  • JB🤪
    JB🤪 9 days ago +1

    Everything that is meant to happen is going to happen👏🏽 Say it louder because I’m just living life and when u ain’t got nobody to please or sometimes we just need to live life to the fullest and get to know ourselves better 🫶🏽

  • ImMyStylz
    ImMyStylz 10 days ago +8

    "One thing about me baby is I'm all about energy being reciprocated!" Now that's a word! I felt every bit of that! ♥️♥️

  • EatsWithLeigh
    EatsWithLeigh  4 days ago

    Real talk De I am just happy to see you happy and enjoying life even after all the obstacles and trails you have faced 👏🏾👏🏾🫶🏾

  • Jaylin white
    Jaylin white 4 days ago

    I can definitely understand you on not wanting to be circled around a relationship because thats how we are use to seeing you , I basically grew up with you im 25 and i was there girl 😂, but ive always been in a relationship and now im just enjoying myself and the better things of life ! I can definitely relate ❤

  • jordan
    jordan 10 days ago +36

    so happy to watch this journey in your life

  • Jasmine May
    Jasmine May 9 days ago +2

    Love you De’arra , you’re amazing! For sure I related to you so much in this video! ❤️

  • Stephanie Miller
    Stephanie Miller 10 days ago +202

    When she said...." I'm not here to change your mind...." I felt that SHYT.

  • Katheryn Stewart
    Katheryn Stewart 9 days ago +13

    “Life will be good when you know that balance.” I agree De’arra👍🏽

  • Janey 🔥F-'ck M'-e - Check my P'ro'fi-le🔥

    Totally agree with the fact that women do know their worth, its just that we love giving others the benefit of the doubt and having faith that things can take a turn and be better.

  • Sharon Dickey
    Sharon Dickey 10 days ago +6

    Love De’arra she really does her thing ❤

  • Crystal Kerstal
    Crystal Kerstal 10 days ago +13

    Sis keeps getting them sponsors and I’m here for it👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 #GIRLBOSS

  • Joi Vann
    Joi Vann 10 days ago +56

    The hair looked like old rich black Hollywood 😭🤩🤩 Giving glamour for sure, I love it 😍😍😍

  • Karen Jenkins
    Karen Jenkins 10 days ago +6

    I feel you De'arra about YOU being a brand and having a company as a brand. You're definitely making some wise decisions as it pertains to creating multiple streams of income. This will allow you to acquire some long-term generational wealth for your future family. So proud of you! It's great to see you shining. Keep Soaring!! 🚀🚀🚀

  • kido vogo
    kido vogo 5 days ago +1

    definitely feel your energy and it’s so radiant.

  • Stephanie Reid
    Stephanie Reid Day ago

    They can only judge from what they hear because they have never been in the situation..... When or if the script flip and they finally get the chance to experience it only then they come to realization that they do the same thing... Rule #1 Don't Be Judgemental 💯💯💯💯💯

  • demiii Dee
    demiii Dee 4 days ago

    hi d , i started watching you a few months ago so i can’t say im an og or anything, but I really do love how you go about yourself and life and i really enjoy your channel .💕

  • Cole M.
    Cole M. 10 days ago +37

    The relationship part about why ppl stay was so dead on I swear I relate to you so well I’m in my young 40s but Dearra is wise for her age I love that

  • Hannah Srehteal
    Hannah Srehteal 8 days ago +1

    Great video, definitely agree that energy has to be matched and reciprocated in a relationship

  • Margaret Scott
    Margaret Scott 10 days ago +15

    I am 78 and a big fan of yours
    So so inspirational for a young
    Go 👧 💘 💘 💘

  • Mikayla Franklin
    Mikayla Franklin 10 days ago +22

    We love a girl talk with DEARRA 💗

  • Noelle Merritt
    Noelle Merritt 10 days ago +87

    The reason you described is exactly why I think people stay longer than they should, but also just afraid to start over and be uncomfortable.

  • Kenneth
    Kenneth 7 days ago

    I Love This Talk!! Felt Like We Were On FaceTime With You Being In A Different Setting💕

  • Amari Coffee
    Amari Coffee 10 days ago +3

    Yesss on the communication. “It’s a conversation not a confrontation” is one way I was told to look at it & ever since I’ve done that, my communication has improved.

  • Tiffanie T
    Tiffanie T 10 days ago +2

    I agree. Having 2 people in a relationship who are having trouble communicating is a struggle. Me and my boyfriend use to hold in our feelings a lot and it was rocky until we made the decision to take a break from a relationship and work in a proper friendship. Since then we have been communicating better and it’s just bliss

  • Mz LJ G2G
    Mz LJ G2G 5 days ago

    GIRL I REALLY ENJOY YOUR VIDEO U answer the questions when I say you answer those questions so good you did girl you were keeping it so real that's what I love about you you keep it real dearra. Keep on being Who You Are and remember God loves you and so do I be safe and stay prayed up and put God first at all times okay🙏🏾💯🔥👍🏾😊❤🥰

  • Princess Jaii
    Princess Jaii 10 days ago +9

    I loved everything about this video u always give good advice and u slayed as always

  • Ĕůphöric Jãyy
    Ĕůphöric Jãyy 10 days ago +11

    I may not be a girl /female, but this conversation is something I would've loved to have with De'arra because it's like, one of those getting deep convos. All the more reasons I still support and love De'arra. Getting to know her even more.

  • Alicia Amor
    Alicia Amor 10 days ago +8

    We like both sit downs and when u do ur makeup ❤ Thanks for the chit chat

  • Ashely Jean-Baptiste
    Ashely Jean-Baptiste 3 days ago +1

    I dead ass love this you g lady, keep doing what you doing!

  • Acaisa Samira
    Acaisa Samira  10 days ago +20

    i just love this! everything about this! De’arra you’re so inspirational and a beautiful Queen! Keep it going! ❤❤❤

  • Christina J
    Christina J 10 days ago +5

    I loved this video your so inspiring 🫶🏽

  • Adrianna Bonéy
    Adrianna Bonéy 10 days ago +4

    The way I ran here😂 I love you honestly these sit downs feel like I’m talking to my sis🫶🏽 this girl chat was just what I needed

  • lex be vlogging
    lex be vlogging 7 days ago

    Balancing work life and person life is sooo important. she’s right! You can get burnt out so fast & not want to do anything! I love girl talks with Dee 💕

  • Jasmine Howard
    Jasmine Howard 5 days ago

    can we all just agree that she’s such an amazing beautiful hardworking woman.

  • Kedo
    Kedo 9 days ago +1

    Its so good to see you thriving ❤

  • Alainaaa
    Alainaaa 10 days ago +3

    it took me we while to learn that you shouldn't go back to an ex, I too was that person that would go back to exe's cause its what I was used to and I was just afraid of starting over! But people use that to take advantage of you. Just because they are coming back to you too doesn't mean they value you and what you guys have, they're comfortable with the fact that they will always have someone to fall back on if whoever they turned on you for folds.

  • Dayesha Johnson
    Dayesha Johnson 9 days ago

    I’m just so proud of you!! 💋❤️

  • Miesha Purnell
    Miesha Purnell 10 days ago +2

    Girl you hit the nail on the head when talked a about when a women is fed up, engagement/ relationships and after a breakup when you’ve been with someone for years. You’ve been so inspirational on this journey thank you for sharing with us ❤

  • Desi
    Desi 10 days ago +52

    23:12 I think the reason is comfortability. A lot of females don't want to start over with someone else when they've already gotten used to who they're with

  • Winter Doll
    Winter Doll 10 days ago

    i’m so proud you’ve finally found you’re true self , and that you could do it all alone , i love you dearra i’ve been watching you for 4 years now

  • C.Ivy
    C.Ivy 10 days ago +4

    Honestly I’m the type of person who leave emotionally before I leave physically. Also knowing how much work went into the relationship and then just leaving it and the thought of starting over again is hard. So i agree with you I want them to do better cause I love them but it had failed me everytime !! I’m not pushing nobody to stay with me cause what one won’t do another will